The Amine Fills The Air: Falling in Love With A Submariner
Did you know that there are about 336,240,037 people in the United States? Did you also know that about 1% of the American population is part of the United States Military? Within the U.S Navy about 28,000 men and women belong to the Submarine Force.
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A while back I had no knowledge about submarines, I didn't know that around 40% of Submariners fail to complete their first enlistment due to the hardships or that Submarine marriages have an 80% divorce rate. I didn't know about the lack of personal space, no sunlight, the disrupted sleep and the many more high demands that Submariners endure.
But one day I met him... and even though I was warned... I did not care! All I knew was I wanted him in my life!
I thought to myself... how hard can it be? I have been deployed before. I have served. The Army is way tougher... but it is a different way of life...and I knew so little.
My time in the service gave me an advantage. I understood what being away from loved ones was like. I knew that the mission is always first. I was aware that long hours, missed holidays and many days apart would be our reality. But marrying someone and raising a family while they are attached to a Submarine is another story.
When I met my husband he was not attached to a Submarine, he was on what the Navy calls shore duty and served as an instructor. His hours were easier & no duty days. When we thought of getting married he actually warned me that keeping a relationship while working on a Submarine was tough work. He warned me about the long days, duty, being away...all sorts of red flags came up! But my heart knew that he was the one and that we would make it work no matter what.
Dive, Dive, Dive
Becoming a military spouse happened pretty quickly as did moving to a Joint Base where different branches speak in different languages and have different cultures. Just because we are all military doesn't mean we always understand each others trials and circumstances.